Often, the person who needs the remedy the most ends up advocating it the most vocally. The person is likely to go through the trouble to look through all the possible remedies, dive deeper into each, and is most likely to empathize with others struggling with similar pains.
Periodic reminder to self to stop comparing yourself with others.
Of the five stages of David Allen’s Getting Things Done (GTD)–Capture, Clarify, Organize, Reflect, and Engage–the most difficult stage to follow through is Reflect.
Recent threads (personal and professional experience, outside learnings through reading and listening to podcast) converged to teach me a lesson in patience.
It’s been a while since I posted! Some life update: I left the US as the visa situation ultimately didn’t resolve (well, a slim chance still as there always has been), and now in Korea working on a few projects of my own. I’ll keep you posted! But for the most part, I feel very driven and fulfilled.
I heard a great sermon the other day. Being a pastor at a church in San Francisco, the pastor’s main message was that rather than striving alone for whatever things we set out to achieve for ourselves, we should all invite God into our lives, wherever space we go that we are proud to invite him (another great lesson here: don’t go to spaces that you aren’t proud to or can’t invite God into, which becomes a strong moral compass similar to “don’t do things you aren’t proud to tell your grandmother”), and abide by what he has in plans for us.
Sometimes, you need to make a choice.
Sometimes, we feel as if we are Atlas, having the entire burdens of the universe laid upon our shoulders.
We often focus too much on our faults rather than strengths.
Sometimes, we walk in to an environment, knowing that in the long term that’s not where we want to be. This won’t lead to our endgame.
It’s not about you all the time. People don’t really care at all about others. At least, not as much as you think they would.
Learning how to cope with your own psychological struggles is such an important skill.
Commitments are no longer commitments when you start making excuses.
You cannot hold onto everything. That would be nice, but you can’t. And in fact, even if you can hold onto everything you want, it will be less meaningful as you lift the constraints that life put on us. Constraints make us choose things we want to hold onto more wisely and carefully.
Lately, I’ve had some interesting experiences with feedback, learning about being on the delivering end and then on the receiving end.
- Lower your expectations. Rather, be the person you want in your life first.
- You get what you put in. Actively invest in the relationships you want to build, grow, and maintain.
- You won’t get along with everyone and that’s fine. But, don’t be haste to judge. Problem may be you, or may just be the circumstances.
“Fake it until you make it” is such an overused, cheesy phrase, huh?
Listen and repeat what you exactly heard, rather than to share your own interpretation.
Instead of telling or forcing others to help and work for you, make them want to work with you and extend help even without you asking.
As I was writing down some lessons learned in the past year, I felt overwhelming gratitude towards a certain group of people that taught me these invaluable lessons.
What really matters in your life?
Instead of blindly chasing what others are doing that seem “cool” and feeling anxious to never miss out on anything, take the time to be alone.
I love talking with people who I resonate with.
Has it been three weeks?
We’ve all had moments when we were tempted to not give our best efforts, just half-assing whatver it was at our hands.
This morning, I caught myself getting salty over something that I should be grateful for in reality.
Continuing the thread from yesterday’s post.
Scratch it. Scratch everything I said in the preface. (I’ll leave it there to remind me of the learning.)
I’ve been putting off this blog for a very long time.